Crowdsourcing Your Intuition

Here's a pattern I see constantly in my coaching work, and one I know intimately from my own experience: asking five people for their opinion on something you already know the answer to. It looks like collaboration. It feels responsible. But energetically? You’re just outsourcing your self-trust.

Most sensitive people were conditioned early to question their inner knowing. Maybe you were rewarded for being agreeable. Maybe you learned that logic and data mattered more than what you were feeling. Or maybe when a decision carries real weight (money, visibility, leadership), your nervous system stops reaching for wisdom and starts reaching for witnesses.

In business, this costs you in real ways. Once you open the door to everyone's input, decisions slow to a crawl. Your messaging gets diluted when you try to make it work for people who aren't even your ideal clients. You start handing your brilliance to people who aren't equipped to receive it — and that's a fast track to imposter syndrome.

Not every gut feeling is intuition. Intuition feels calm, neutral, and clear, even when the situation is stressful. Anxiety feels urgent, loud, and spiraling. One of the most useful practices I've developed is not making big decisions from urgency (mine or anyone else's).

In this episode, I walk through a four-step framework for rebuilding your relationship with your own inner knowing: decide privately first, name what you already know, identify where you're wobbly, and then use outside input to refine — not replace — your knowing. That's how self-trust gets rebuilt.